Unfortunately, divorce is a common aspect of today’s society. Every day, people file for divorce at their local courthouse but why? Why do people divorce? Can it be avoided? There is an overwhelming amount of research on why people file for divorce and the reasons for divorce can be both predictable and surprising. #1 Reason […]
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Do you clean your house instead of working on a big project? Do you put off sorting through your closet because it seems daunting? You might be a procrastinator. People throw around the term procrastination frequently, but it’s very real and has very real consequences. “Never put off till tomorrow what you can do today!”
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This Self Help For PTSD guide is intended for people with mild-to-moderate symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) or complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD). If you’re feeling distressed, in a state of despair, suicidal, or need emotional support you can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. This Self Help For PTSD guide aims
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10 Personality Traits Of A Perfectionist There are quite a few personality traits that make a person exhibit perfectionistic behaviors. Here are 10 of the common traits of a perfectionist. You are extremely competitive about almost everything. You feel secretly judgmental of people who fall short of perfection. You imagine others admire and value you
The first thing the victims of narcissists need to know is that they are not to blame. Not one bit. In other words, he didn’t get mad because dinner was was late. She didn’t blow up because you are “too this” or “too that.” You didn’t “ask for it” by speaking up and saying that
37 Lies We Were Taught About Men Since our Childhood. 1. Ugly men will treat you better because they’ll be so grateful to have female attention 2. Older men are more mature and better in bed 3. If you’re really a bad bitch then men won’t treat you badly. If you’re attracting bums it’s your
I notice there are often posts asking for guidance on getting over heartbreak. I’m sharing some tips below that may be helpful. I hope it’s useful to some of you. Some of the information I am listing is a bit new-agey, so if you don’t vibe with that, skip over it. Take what resonates with
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The Narcissistic Cycle of Abuse is very similar to the standard Cycle of Abuse in most domestic violence situations, with a tension-building phase, an abusive incident, a honeymoon phase, and intermittent periods of calm. There are, however, some distinctions: The Narcissistic cycle of abuse generally involves four stages: Your narcissist partner feels threatened He or she
“Ignorance is the key reason people outside the relationship shame the victim,” says Margaret Bayston, CEO and executive director of Laura’s House, a nonprofit that has offered shelter and services to domestic violence survivors in Orange County, Calif., for the past two decades. She says the horrible part about victim shaming is that many victims are
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Some victims’ experiences are invalidated because their abuser was not diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD); however, anyone can be a narcissistic abuser, with or without a diagnosis. Narcissistic abuse may include emotional, physical, verbal, psychological, and sexual abuse, committed by someone who displays narcissistic personality traits. What is Narcissistic abuse? Narcissistic abuse is a
The narcissist uses five main tools. These are gifts, affection, withdrawal, threats and violence and in exactly this order. Gifts: Gifts can be used in two ways. They can either be a symbol of submission or a symbol of demand. Free people generally do not give gifts because they have what they want and do
There are numerous gaslighting techniques which can make gaslighting more difficult to identify. Gaslighting techniques are used to hide truths that the abuser doesn’t want the victim to realize. Gaslighting abuse can be perpetrated by either women or men. 12 Gaslighting Techniques Used To Manipulate You And How to spot them 1. Blame shifting They
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I wrote this short work with three specific goals in mind: first, to help you stop running yourself ragged on the tragic hamster wheel of a doomed relationship with a narcissist; second, to inspire in you the resilience and determination that you need in order to recover from the psychological injuries that such a relationship
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Without motivation in life, it’s hard to strive for success and achieve true happiness. As psychologist Tal Ben-Shahar, PhD, explains in his book Happier, happiness is the ‘highest on the hierarchy of goals, the end toward which all other ends lead…’. Without motivation, you can’t achieve anything. There are no goal posts to aim for and no
Boundaries, to my mind, are one of the cornerstone psychological habits that we all have to learn. Good boundaries protect us, protect others, and good boundaries help us experience safety, well-being, happiness, and fulfillment in life. And, good boundaries are especially critical to focus on learning and improving if you come from a relational trauma background. But how do you
We put off doing the dishes and the laundry. We put off going out for a run or hitting the gym. We put off reading the latest best selling book and we sit idle before conference deadlines. We often put things off until the deadline is looming and the pressure has increased enough to make
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We have all herd of being codependent on someone but do you really know “what is codependency?“ Codependence is the over dependence on others for your sense of self, sense of safety, and sense of mattering. In essence, co-dependency is the compulsive need for a person/or people, much the same way alcohol dependence is a
In the course of our personal growth journeys, as we begin to learn more about ourselves, our patterns, and the way our lives were impacted by our early childhood experiences, we may, at some point, confront the question: “Am I codependent?” If you’ve ever asked this question, if you’re curious or concerned that this may
Violence in the family often follows other forms of more subtle and long-term abuse: verbal, emotional, psychological sexual, or financial. It is closely correlated with alcoholism, drug consumption, intimate-partner homicide, teen pregnancy, infant and child mortality, spontaneous abortion, reckless behaviours, suicide, and the onset of mental health disorders. Most abusers and batterers are males –
Why is it that on some days, we find it more challenging to get out of bed, make the kids a nutritious breakfast before they go to school, and then go to work? On some days, we ace the morning ritual; on others, things go horribly wrong. So, what’s the difference between intrinsic vs extrinsic
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As perfectionists, we are constantly at war with the world. We know we’re capable of so much. We want only to do our best at all times. And sadly, it simply isn’t possible. That’s what drives us nuts. We yearn, with all of our heart and soul, to express something absolutely perfect. But life, by
We all procrastinate. Whether at work or home, there are times when we put off things for later. For most of us procrastinating has become a bad habit. But could there be some hidden benefits of procrastination? As they say, old habits die hard. But what if rather than giving up on this habit, we
Many motivational speakers and websites will tell you goody-goody stuff to make you feel warm inside but here we are all about focusing on stuff that works. Yes, I would love to make you feel warm and fuzzy but only with the facts. If something doesn’t work, you simply won’t find it here, even if
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There are times in life where everyone feels tired and weighed down. Every day we work for our goals and dreams, but it feels like we’re running in quicksand. Of course, we knew the journey would be long and treacherous. But we never expected it to be this long or this treacherous. You think to yourself, “maybe I am
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It is my goal to help you Make Life Yours, so we are exploring happiness … backed by science! Let me know what happiness means to you! “Happiness depends on ourselves.” – Aristotle We all have ideas about what happiness is and how to get it. Maybe it’s driving the car with the windows rolled
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