Over the years, I’ve benefited from numerous books and products. Those listed below are ones that I recommend as I’ve used them myself and/or recommended them to clients with excellent results.
Narcissistic Abuse
- The Narcissist You Know: Defending Yourself Against Extreme Narcissists in an All-About-Me Age
- Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
- Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself
- How To Kill A Narcissist: Debunking The Myth Of Narcissism And Recovering From Narcissistic Abuse
Codependency and Boundaries
- Codependent No More by Melody Beattie
- Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend
- Where to Draw the Line by Anne Katherine
- The Disease to Please by Harriet Braiker
- Adult Children of Alcoholics by Janet Woititz
- Recovery: A Guide for Adult Children of Alcoholics by Herbert Gravitz and Julie Bowden
Dysfunctional Families
- Toxic Parents by Susan Forward
- If You Had Controlling Parents by Dan Neurharth
- Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect by Jonice Webb
- The Emotionally Absent Mother by Jasmin Lee Cori
Relationships
- Who’s Pulling Your Strings by Harriet Braiker
- The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman
- Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help You Find and Keep Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller
- After the Affair by Janis Abrahms Spring
Parenting
- The Whole Brain Child by Daniel Siegel
- Get Out of My Life, But First Could You Drive Me and Cheryl to the Mall? by Anthony Wolf
- Yes, Your Teen is Crazy! by Michael Bradley
Depression/Anxiety/Mental Health
- Feeling Good by David Burns
- Learned Optimism by Martin Seligman
- 8 Keys to Mental Health through Exercise by Christina Hibbert
- DARE: The New Way to End Anxiety and Stop Panic Attacks by Barry McDonagh
For Women
- Women Who Love Too Much by Robin Norwood
- Why Does He Do That? By Lundy Bancroft
- The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis
- The Dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner
- Perfect Daughters by Robert Ackerman
For Men
- I Don’t Want to Talk about It by Terrence Real
- Silent Sons by Robert Ackerman
Trauma and Healing
- Trauma and Recovery by Judith Herman
- The Body Keeps Score by Bessel Van der Kolk
- You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay
- Waking the Tiger by Peter Levine
Self-worth/Happiness/Other
- The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown
- Daring Greatly by Brene Brown
- Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff
- Forgive for Good by Fred Luskin
- The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin
- Emotional Freedom by Judith Orloff
- The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron
- The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg
Grief/Perinatal Loss
- Empty Cradle, Broken Heart: Surviving the Death of Your Baby by Deborah Davis
- Bearing the Unbearable by Joanne Cacciatore
Emergency Numbers
Rape Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN) is the nation’s largest organization fighting sexual violence: (800) 656-HOPE / (800) 810-7440 (TTY)
988 Mental Health Emergency Hotline: Calling 988 will connect you to a crisis counselor regardless of where you are in the United States.
911 Emergency
The National Runaway Safeline: 800-RUNAWAY (800-786-2929)
Self Abuse Finally Ends (S.A.F.E)
American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry, Trauma & Child Abuse Resource Center
Domestic Violence Shelters & Resources
National Center for Victims of Crime
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
National Network to End Domestic Violence
National Sexual Violence Resource Center
Stalking Prevention, Awareness, and Resource Center (SPARC)
National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) HelpLine: 1-800-950-NAMI, or text “HELPLINE” to 62640. Both services are available between 10 a.m. and 10 p.m. ET, Monday–Friday
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org. Or, just dial 988
Suicide Prevention, Awareness, and Support: www.suicide.org
Crisis Text Line: Text REASON to 741741 (free, confidential and 24/7). In English and Spanish
Self-Harm Hotline: 1-800-DONT CUT (1-800-366-8288)
Family Violence Helpline: 1-800-996-6228
American Association of Poison Control Centers: 1-800-222-1222
National Council on Alcoholism & Drug Dependency: 1-800-622-2255
LGBTQ Hotline: 1-888-843-4564
National Maternal Mental Health Hotline: 1-833-TLC-MAMA (1-833-852-6262)
The Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386 or text “START” to 678678. Standard text messaging rates apply. Available 24/7/365. (Provides crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer & questioning—LGBTQ—young people under 25.)
The SAGE LGBT Elder Hotline connects LGBT older people and caretakers with friendly responders. 1-877-360-LGBT (5428)
The Trans Lifeline is staffed by transgender people for transgender people:
1-877-565-8860 (United States)
1-877-330-6366 (Canada)
Veterans Crisis Line: https://www.veteranscrisisline.net
International Suicide Prevention Directory: findahelpline.com
The StrongHearts Native Helpline is a confidential and anonymous culturally appropriate domestic violence and dating violence helpline for Native Americans, available every day from 7 a.m. to 10 p.m. CT. Call 1-844-762-8483.
‘Find a Therapist’ Online Directories
- Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists
- GoodTherapy.org: http://www.goodtherapy.org/find-therapist.html
- American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy: https://aamft.org/Directories/Find_a_Therapist.asp
Canada
- Emergency: 911
- Hotline: 1-888-353-2273
- YourLifeCounts.org: https://yourlifecounts.org/find-help/
UK & Republic of Ireland
- Emergency: 112 or 999
- Hotline: +44 (0) 8457 90 90 90 (UK – local rate)
- Hotline: +44 (0) 8457 90 91 92 (UK minicom)
- Hotline: 1850 60 90 90 (ROI – local rate)
- Hotline: 1850 60 90 91 (ROI minicom)
- YourLifeCounts.org: https://yourlifecounts.org/find-help/