Overcoming emotional abuse caused by a narcissistic personality is a challenge for anyone facing that mountain!
What is Abuse?
“Abuse” is a word that is thrown around a lot in casual conversations; but what defines abuse?
How does one know if they are committing the abuse or being abused?
It’s quite simple.
According to the Gale Encyclopedia of Medicine, the definition of abuse is the following:
Abuse is defined as any action that intentionally harms or injures another person.
So what exactly constitutes intimate partner violence or spousal abuse? What are the different types of abuse?
Spousal abuse does not necessarily involve physical violence. Women who are mistreated in less apparent ways may need support in recognizing that their partners’ behavior is unacceptably controlling and constitutes abuse.
We categorize abusive behaviors under eight general headings. Each type of abuse involves an imbalance of power in the relationship, whereby the abuser attempts to degrade, intimidate and thereby exert control over his partner.
Abuse includes: Emotional, Social, Financial, Physical, Sexual, Environmental, Religious, and Ritual Abuse.
A single one of these acts may not constitute abuse, but if someone is doing something to harm or control you then you are being abused. You have the right to be treated with respect and to feel safe in your home.
Overcome Narcissistic Abuse
Let me guide you through the process of overcoming emotional abuse caused by a narcissistic personality in your life. Become an Abuse Warrior and win your battle!
Not Sure Where to Start?
Narcissistic abuse can start so slyly that is can it incredibly hard to be sure if that is what you are going through. When you are the victim your entire reality has been manipulated, warped, and distorted. You are a victim, a narcissist has abused you.
People that have Narcissist Personality Disorder (NPD) are actually pretty common and can be found in all different paths throughout your life. There will more than likely come a time when you find yourself working with or living with a narcissist.
The term ‘flying monkeys’ refers to ‘abuse by proxy,’ or having someone else perform the bidding of another person, in this case a narcissist.
Anyone who grew up watching The Wizard of Oz will recall how frightening the Wicked Witch of the West’s flying monkeys were.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder is nothing to take lightly. Nor is it a label to lightly put on someone you think is arrogant.
The warped thinking is so ingrained and stubborn that the mental health profession has had little success in dealing with it. It’s called “malignant” narcissism because it is just that, malignant. So, it’s far worse than just being arrogant. A malignant narcissist is a predator
In other words, Narcissistic Personality Disorder is as serious as sociopathy. In fact, it is increasingly thought to be a form of sociopathy/psychopathy. NPD isn’t occasional behavior. It is a pervasive pattern of thinking and behaving that corrupts virtually every human interaction.
Narcissists engage in behaviors that are harmful to everyone they meet.
Below are the tactics they use to distort your reality and the motivations behind them. These are classic narcissistic behaviors in a nutshell:
A relationship with a narcissist can be unpredictable enough, but breaking up one can be hell. Learn exactly what you can expect when you break up with your narcissistic partner.
Trauma bonding occurs because the trauma of the abuse changes your brain physiologically as you start to release neuropeptides that bond you to your partner which you are addicted to.
The Transformation is Real; They Break you Slowly
Rape Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN) is the nation’s largest organization fighting sexual violence: (800) 656-HOPE / (800) 810-7440 (TTY)
988 Mental Health Emergency Hotline: Calling 988 will connect you to a crisis counselor regardless of where you are in the United States.
National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) HelpLine: 1-800-950-NAMI, or text “HELPLINE” to 62640.Both services available between 10 a.m. and 10 p.m. ET, Monday–Friday
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233
Suicide Prevention, Awareness, and Support: www.suicide.org
Crisis Text Line: Text REASON to 741741 (free, confidential and 24/7). In English and Spanish
Self-Harm Hotline: 1-800-DONT CUT (1-800-366-8288)
Family Violence Helpline: 1-800-996-6228
Planned Parenthood Hotline: 1-800-230-PLAN (7526)
American Association of Poison Control Centers: 1-800-222-1222
National Council on Alcoholism & Drug Dependency: 1-800-622-2255
LGBTQ Hotline: 1-888-843-4564
National Maternal Mental Health Hotline: 1-833-TLC-MAMA (1-833-852-6262)
The Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386 or text “START” to 678678. Standard text messaging rates apply. Available 24/7/365. (Provides crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer & questioning—LGBTQ—young people under 25.)
The SAGE LGBT Elder Hotline connects LGBT older people and caretakers with friendly responders. 1-877-360-LGBT (5428)
The Trans Lifeline is staffed by transgender people for transgender people:
1-877-565-8860 (United States)
Veterans Crisis Line: https://www.veteranscrisisline.net
International Suicide Prevention Directory: findahelpline.com
The StrongHearts Native Helpline is a confidential and anonymous culturally appropriate domestic violence and dating violence helpline for Native Americans, available every day from 7 a.m. to 10 p.m. CT. Call 1-844-762-8483.
‘Find a Therapist’ Online Directories
- Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists
- GoodTherapy.org: http://www.goodtherapy.org/find-therapist.html
- American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy: https://aamft.org/Directories/Find_a_Therapist.asp
- Emergency: 911
- Hotline: 1-888-353-2273
- YourLifeCounts.org: https://yourlifecounts.org/find-help/
UK & Republic of Ireland
- Emergency: 112 or 999
- Hotline: +44 (0) 8457 90 90 90 (UK – local rate)
- Hotline: +44 (0) 8457 90 91 92 (UK minicom)
- Hotline: 1850 60 90 90 (ROI – local rate)
- Hotline: 1850 60 90 91 (ROI minicom)
- YourLifeCounts.org: https://yourlifecounts.org/find-help/