There’s an old cliche that “the best revenge is living well.” In reality, this is only true when the person you want revenge on is a narcissist. Because they truly cannot stand to know you’re living well without them in your life.
You might say, “What a bloody lame answer! It wouldn’t bug me one bit if someone I fell out with was living well without me!!” And that’s because you’re not a narcissist.
To get “revenge” on them you need to think like they do. They are insecure, petty, self-loathing people who project their own insecurities on to others. “Living well” is not something they want to see you do.
And in order to live well without a narcissist in your life, you will need to establish the No Contact Rule with them — and stick to it. Live your life as though they never existed, refraining from any and all contact.
True, you don’t get to see the narcissist twitch and squirm, but if you were ever a valued source of supply to them, believe me, they are definitely twitching and squirming.
- The best Ways to take revenge on a Narcissist
- 1. Do not take any revenge at all.
- 2. Walk Away
- 3. Do not allow them to contact you on anything.
- 4. Ignore Them.
- 5. If you allowed the option for them to Hoover and they already did, ignore them completely.
- 6. Don’t Beg
- 7. Be Mature
- 8. Don’t try to save them.
- 9. Realize that love means.
- 10. Make peace with yourself.
- 11. Don’t chase revenge.
- 12. Do not trust them
- 13. Spend time with friends
- 14. Remember they are not your friend
- 15. Love Yourself
- 16. Don’t repeat your mistakes
- 17. Overcome withdrawl
- 18. Count your blessings
- 19. Don’t be a doormat
- 20. Recognize that you escaped hell.
The best Ways to take revenge on a Narcissist
1. Do not take any revenge at all.
Let them be who they are,because taking revenge from an immature kid makes you as narcissistic as they are.
2. Walk Away
Walk away from them completely, going full No Contact (cutting everything off including their number and social media networks).
3. Do not allow them to contact you on anything.
They know your weaknesses no matter what they will manipulate you again and drag you to the game,if they manipulated you since day 1 they will again do it no problem.
4. Ignore Them.
If you see them on the road, the are Lord Voldemort to you,they don’t exist on your dictionary,they are dead people thin air to you,ignore them completely and walk away.
5. If you allowed the option for them to Hoover and they already did, ignore them completely.
That will drive them mad,when you ignore them you don’t do it to get them mad but you do it for your own good and safety.
6. Don’t Beg
7. Be Mature
Be the mature one to learn to walk away from toxic people in your life,no matter how hard it is you should learn that.
8. Don’t try to save them.
You are no one to save them,neither help them or change them,we have professionals to do that thing,and you ain’t one.
9. Realize that love means.
You say i love him,you should always remember that mature love is built on respect, value, care and love,not codependency and rescuing people so they can love you,you ain’t mother Mary neither an Angel from God to rescue someone,if it means you will ruin your whole life and be enslaved to them.
10. Make peace with yourself.
Make peace with your inner self and mind,convince yourself that you got lied and manipulated,the person you knew never existed it was just an illusion presented by them.
11. Don’t chase revenge.
Fight with your inner self no matter how bad you try to take revenge stop yourself, because the revenge will only hurt you not them,they possess no Empathy neither do they care,the revenge will turn you to a terrible person someone that you are not basically to them,leave them be because they are immature kids,you can’t take revenge from a kid that slapped you,because that makes you as narcissistic as them and as immature as them.
12. Do not trust them
They are Con Artists even if they promise they will change,because they won’t, a person that lied you once and manipulated you once will always do it no matter what.
13. Spend time with friends
Go outside spend time with your friends,enjoy your life that’s the best revenge that you can give them, basically not caring at all,showing them that you can continue without them.
Show them that you took your life back, you got successful with your life, you are an independent person standing on your legs,and your whole self worth ain’t dependent on them, life is too beautiful and short to feed yourself with hate or revenge for someone (no matter what they did, because it shows immaturity).
14. Remember they are not your friend
Convince yourself that they ain’t your friends, neither an enemy to deserve an revenge from you, you don’t give revenge to someone that has no value on your eyes, you don’t take revenge from thin air, because they ain’t worth of your energy neither of your valuable time.
15. Love Yourself
Learn to love yourself again,taking your esteem back,include yourself with positive people who make you laugh and spend the best time of your life with them.
16. Don’t repeat your mistakes
Always follow up this code in life, if someone breaks your trust once they will always do it, you leave without arguing or confronting when they do, always follow up this quote-
’’Fool me once shame on you,fool me twice shame on me.”
17. Overcome withdrawl
You will go through hard withdrawal symptoms,you will burn your brain and body seeking revenge that’s normal, do not give up, do not give yourself up, take it as you are in a rehab, because if you do they will win,if you learn to walk away ’’They might have won a few battles but you will win the war in the end’’
18. Count your blessings
Stay blessed because good things are waiting for you on the future,God gives us the people that we need not the ones that we want, if he removed this toxic person from your life he knew why he did it, what comes from God always remember that is most welcomed,if you go against his will you will hurt yourself and no one else.
19. Don’t be a doormat
Learn to never share your Empathy with the wrong people, being nice to someone that deserves it is cool, but that does not mean that you should be someones doormat, give people what they deserve if they don’t deserve your words you feed them your silence.
20. Recognize that you escaped hell.
Once you disconnect form this person once and for all you take everything back, his/her hoover will be not welcomed at all,you will learn that you did yourself a big favor and that was the best decision you took for your life, you will learn that God blessed you with the most difficult test in your life and you passed it without a problem,you will come back in here, being surprised laughing your ass off.
Telling yourself that I can’t believe I wasted so much of my energy and time to take revenge from this worthless person, convince yourself that the best revenge that you will take from them is standing up for yourself and moving forward with your life, they don’t deserve your anything,including your revenge.