How To Stop Loving Someone Who Doesn’t Love You

Loving someone who doesn’t love you is one of the most painful experiences and feelings to go through. Unfortunately, until you go through it yourself, you can’t really begin to understand how hard it is to deal with. Keep reading to understand how to stop loving someone who doesn’t love you.

Though it can seem hopeless at the time, there are things you can do to minimize the pain and you can train yourself to stop loving them over time. We are under no illusions that this won’t be easy, but it is possible. 

There will be times you seem to go backward in the falling out of love and healing process, but that’s ok.

Love is one of the strongest emotions human beings experience, so there’s no way you’d be able to just fall out of love with someone in a single day. 

Talk To Someone

You’d be surprised how helpful just talking to someone can be. Keeping feelings bottled up will set you up for disaster and will only make the situation worse for yourself.

Look into getting a therapist or if you don’t want to do that, find a friend who is trustworthy and reliable. If you don’t have any friends who fit that description, you can talk to your family too. 

Just getting your feelings out can help you release any tension and pain you may be feeling and sometimes, people come out with some great advice you wouldn’t think of because they are seeing it from a totally different perspective to you.

Give Yourself Time To Grieve

It might sound a bit odd, but you should give yourself time to grieve the relationship. Before you can heal from anything, you need to give yourself time to accept the situation for what it is and grief what you have lost. 

If you need to have a good cry, allow that for yourself. Love is such a powerful emotion and it’s so hard to let go of.

If you try to keep holding on to it, you won’t give yourself any room to learn to let go, and this is why grieving what you’ve lost can help you on the road to healing a lot faster. 

Healing doesn’t happen in a single day though, so if you need to take a bit of extra time to grieve, let yourself have it.

Just don’t get too lost in it, because if you stay in the grieving process forever, you will never be able to move on. 

Break All Ties

This will be quite a hard step to take, but it is extremely necessary for you in order to stop loving them. If someone doesn’t love you anymore, they don’t have the right to take up space and time in your life. 

Block their number and social media profiles. Unfriend them on social as well as block them. Don’t let them have any way of contacting you or seeing how your life is doing from afar.

If they have hurt you and don’t want to be a part of your life, they can’t have it both ways. 

And more importantly, what’s out of sight is out of mind. If you aren’t seeing them on social media or having any contact with them, you will naturally start to think about them less and less as time goes on. 

Get Rid Of The Things That Remind You

If you have any items that remind you of them, it’s in your best interest to get rid of them. This can also be quite a difficult step to take because it cements that they are gone more in reality. 

If you are not ready to get rid of things that remind you of them or they are too expensive to get rid of, redecorate a bit. Give yourself a fresh new space to being the next stage of your life. 

When you are ready to get rid of these things though, look at it as a positive. You are leaving your past behind you and heading into an exciting new future.

Practice Self Care

Above everything else, you need to take time out to practice self-care. Get a new haircut or book a spa day. Invest lots of time into things and hobbies you enjoy. If the person you’re trying to get over ever stopped you from doing anything, do those things now! 

Take at least an hour or two a day to do the things you love and things that make you happy. You might not feel the benefits immediately, but as you do these things more, you’ll start to feel better and enjoy yourself again. 

Remember The Bad As Well As The Good 

Even in the most “perfect” relationships, there are still qualities and things that happen that aren’t exactly ideal. 

When you’re in love with someone, it’s hard to see any bad in them. When you’re trying to get over them though, it’s in your best interest to remember the bad just as much as the good. 

When you do look back at the relationship, in hindsight you might remember something and realize they were not the best influence in your life, even though you thought they were, and this will help you get over them in the long run. 

Conclusion

It’s not easy to give up on love when you feel it, but as you spend more time with yourself and away from the person you love, you’ll begin to see that you don’t need them for a full life. 

It isn’t easy to stop loving someone who doesn’t love you, but it can be done. It just takes time and acceptance of the situation you are in.

Having a good support network around you will also help and thought being told “you’re not alone” doesn’t help when you’re right in the middle of dealing with these feelings, eventually, you will realize that it is true.

Just take your time in your healing process and allow yourself to work through your emotions as easily as you possibly can.