* I generally write using the pronouns he/him when referring to narcissists, but females are just as likely to be narcissists or exhibit narcissistic traits. So please don't think just because article uses the word him or he that it could not be a woman in that same role.
When you have been gaslighted or manipulated by someone, it can seem almost impossible to move on from such a toxic relationship.

Table of Contents
How To Let Go Of A Toxic Relationship
They seem to be projected everywhere in the media, from tv shows, to songs, and in movies.
When it’s actually happening to you, however, it’s not as easy as just getting a new haircut and hoping for the best.
If you’ve found yourself struggling to move on from a relationship that was no longer serving you, don’t worry, you’ll get there.
Below we’ve listed some things to help you on your way to moving on and leading a happier and healthier life.
Realize That It Wasn’t Your Fault And You Deserve Better
Part of the way in which we move on from toxic relationships is by realizing that we were never to blame for what happened.
Although the person you were with might have caused you to doubt yourself, now that you have moved away from it, you can begin to see things for what they really are.
The truth is that you are deserving of healthy love and respect, it is your right as a human being.
Just because the last person didn’t appreciate your worth doesn’t mean that the next person will be the same.
Many of us remain in toxic relationships because we have this unwavering belief that we can fix the other person.
But this isn’t our job. Our job is to be the best version of ourselves so that we can then accept and allow another person into our lives who is worthy and deserving of us in the future.
One of the best ways to set yourself up ready to accept the next person into your life is by observing some of the healthy relationships around you.
Maybe this is your mom and dad, or your friend and her longtime partner.
You could even watch some romance movies featuring some of your favorite (non-toxic) relationships.
Whoever it is, try to witness what a good, healthy relationship really looks like, and remind yourself that you deserve the same.
Allow Yourself Time To Grieve
Many of us try to suppress our feelings and pretend that we are doing okay when we’re not.
Just because the relationship you were previously in was a toxic one, it doesn’t mean that it’s any less painful to let go.
In fact, it can be even more painful because of all the manipulation tactics designed to make you stay.
If you find yourself grieving for what was, that’s okay, give yourself that space to do so.
Now and then, keep reminding yourself that you are meant for better.
Although it may not seem like it now, this experience will help to shape the person you are in the future, stronger and more resilient.
Find Yourself Again

Many of us who have been through toxic situations in our love lives know that they can often cause us to lose our own identity in the process.
What were you like before you entered into this relationship? Maybe it has been such a long time that you find yourself struggling to remember.
This is okay though. Moving on from a toxic relationship is your chance to find yourself again, and re-discover all of the things that you enjoy.
Maybe the person that you were with dictated how you should feel and dress, or maybe they lowered your self esteem so much that you weren’t sure of anything anymore.
Today is your opportunity to take back your power, and take the necessary steps to living a whole, fulfilling life again.
When we are feeling down about anything, distraction is key.
Time really does heal all, but in the meantime, finding hobbies and things that you will help to fill your time and drown out some of the negative thoughts.
Pursuing things that you enjoy will also be a big part of finding yourself again, as you re-define who you are outside of the relationship.
Don’t Wait Around For An Apology
Many times when relationships end, there is often this yearning desire to receive some kind of closure. This is even more prevalent in relationships that are considered toxic.
Perhaps this person caused you a lot of pain and heartbreak, and so you believe that they should apologize for their wrongdoings.
Chances are this won’t happen because the person who has left is unwilling to accept responsibility.
You will save yourself a lot of time and heartache by choosing to let go of the need for closure.
You deserve to be happy and to move on, without needing any validation from your ex-partner to do so.
Try Forgiveness
This one doesn’t work for everyone, but it can be highly beneficial.
If you want to move on from the toxicity of the relationship, then forgiving your ex-partner can be a step towards this.
It may sound counterintuitive, forgiving the person who wronged us, but it is actually a healthy attitude that can release a lot of built up resentment.
Feeling resentful for prolonged periods of time can actually be quite damaging.
It means that we’re still giving time and energy to this person who is no longer in our lives, and handing over our personal power in the meantime.
In order to combat this, practice acceptance and know that the experience will help to make you a stronger person.
This will give you the space to start practicing positivity and gratitude, and to look to the future.
Final Thoughts
Moving on from a toxic relationship can sometimes feel impossible, but it’s not, By enlisting some of the help provided above, you can work yourself towards a brighter and happier future. It’s what you deserve.
Self Help For PTSD/CPTSD- Steps to Start Your Recovery
If you need a crisis hotline or want to learn more about therapy, please see below:
- RAINN (Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network) – 1-800-656-4673
- The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline – 1-800-273-8255
- National Domestic Violence Hotline – 1-800-799-7233
- NAMI Helpline (National Alliance on Mental Illness) – 1-800-950-6264
For more information on mental health, please see:
- SAMHSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) SAMHSA Facebook, SAMHSA Twitter, SAMHSA LinkedIn, SAMHSA Youtube
- Mental Health America, MHA Twitter, MHA Facebook, MHA Instagram, MHA Pinterest, MHA Youtube
- WebMD, WebMD Facebook, WebMD Twitter, WebMD Instagram, WebMD Pinterest
- NIMH (National Institute of Mental Health), NIMH Instagram, NIMH Facebook, NIMH Twitter, NIMH YouTube
- APA (American Psychiatric Association), APA Twitter, APA Facebook, APA LinkedIN, APA Instagram
If You Need A Crisis Hotline Or Want To Learn More About Therapy, Please See Below:
- RAINN (Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network) – 1-800-656-4673
- The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline – 1-800-273-8255
- National Domestic Violence Hotline – 1-800-799-7233
- NAMI Helpline (National Alliance on Mental Illness) – 1-800-950-6264
For More Information On Mental Health, Please See:
- SAMHSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) SAMHSA Facebook, SAMHSA Twitter, SAMHSA LinkedIn, SAMHSA Youtube
- Mental Health America, MHA Twitter, MHA Facebook, MHA Instagram, MHA Pinterest, MHA Youtube
- WebMD, WebMD Facebook, WebMD Twitter, WebMD Instagram, WebMD Pinterest
- NIMH (National Institute of Mental Health), NIMH Instagram, NIMH Facebook, NIMH Twitter, NIMH YouTube
- APA (American Psychiatric Association), APA Twitter, APA Facebook, APA LinkedIN, APA Instagram