* I generally write using the pronouns he/him when referring to narcissists, but females are just as likely to be narcissists or exhibit narcissistic traits. So please don't think just because article uses the word him or he that it could not be a woman in that same role.
In the modern day, texting really is a luxury, in an instant you can message anyone anywhere in the world and have a conversation, but what if you want someone to stop texting you?
Whatever your reasons, getting someone to stop texting you can be tricky and potentially can cause some hurt feelings, so in this article we’ll be breaking down the best ways that you can get someone to stop texting you, without causing anyone getting hurt.
So without further ado let’s get started.
It’s important to recognize why you want that person to stop texting you, sure, you might find them annoying, or you might have other reasons altogether, but recognizing why you want to stop texting someone is a great way to understand your own emotions better, and that way you won’t regret anything you do once you can’t go back.
The simplest, and most effective way to get someone to stop texting you is simply blocking them.
Sure, it can seem rude, and won’t always be the most effective way if you see that person in real life, but sometimes the most effective ways are the most painless, and regardless of who they are, they’re sure to get the hint once you’ve blocked them on whatever platform they’re messaging you on.
This is a great way to stop talking to someone without seeming rude because they won’t directly be told that you’ve blocked them, and instead it’ll just seem like you haven’t replied to their messages.
Some devices may not have a block feature, in which case you can easily download a third party blocker like blacklist, and block that individual through that, either way this option is super easy, and works in an instant.
Ignoring the person messaging might seem rude, but we’ve all lost our phone, or ‘dropped it down the toilet’ occasionally. Not responding to endless lists of their messages is sure to work too.
Unless they’re completely tone deaf, seeing a list of their unanswered messages start to pile up is a great way of getting across that you’re not interested in what they have to say, without directly telling the person, and sometimes that’s just the easiest way.
It might seem mean, but by avoiding the conversation even for a day or two will give you the space you need, and if all else fails will allow you to get the headspace required to follow another one of these options if the person is still messaging you.
If you change your mind, then you can always make an excuse too for why you weren’t responding.
Blocking and ignoring them aside, sometimes the right thing to do is often the hardest approach.
Whilst it might be awkward, telling someone straight up that you’re not interested in talking to them can be a sobering but straightforward approach to getting your feelings across.
Be honest too! If you’re already going out of your way to be honest with this person, tell them why you don’t want to talk to them.
It can seem brutal, but sometimes the kindest thing you can do is explain to a person what went wrong, obviously this will change from person to person, and won’t always be as easy as just telling them, but being honest clears your conscious and if the person’s understanding you’ll both be better off than if you lied to the person or straight up blocked them.
Telling the truth feels good!
Make an excuse
Maybe you just can’t block this person outright, you want to talk to them just not as much as they’d like to, or you just can’t bring yourself to tell them the truth right away, then making an excuse is a small lie that can help everyone feel more comfortable in the moment.
Sure, telling the truth can resolve your issue in a way that everyone’s on the same page with, but sometimes maybe you just need some time to yourself, so saying that is okay.
‘Just going to put my phone down so i can focus, i’ll text you later’
Is a great way of keeping it real, whilst not offending anyone, if you really want you can extend it even further,
‘My phone ran out of battery’ or ‘my phone’s running out of data’ are just examples of simple excuses you can use to give yourself a bit of breathing room, and nobody’s feelings are going to get hurt.
This is a temporary solution though, if you find that you’re constantly making excuses to stop messaging someone then rather than wasting everyone’s time, sometimes it can be better to just tell them the truth, or choose any other of the more permanent solutions on this list.
Contact the authorities
Whilst it might seem extreme, if the person that’s messaging you doesn’t stop after you’ve blocked them or told them the truth, and consistently messaging a person to the point that it becomes threatening is harassment, and you shouldn’t sit back and let it happen.
Whatever your scenario is, your safety is the number one priority always, so even if you’re slightly worried about your wellbeing, then contacting the authorities is never a bad idea, it’s much better to be cautious but safe than risk your wellbeing on someone that clearly doesn’t respect your wishes to stop contacting you.
Reporting this to the authorities is as simple as going to your local precinct and filing a police report. A protection order can be placed to keep you safe, and the matter will be out of your hands.
So there we have it, whatever your particular situation is there’ll be ways that are better at getting someone to stop messaging you, but understanding your own personal boundaries, and remaining safe are always the most important thing, so make sure you stay safe, and be confident.
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