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Top 6 Narcissistic cheating patterns

* I generally write using the pronouns he/him when referring to narcissists, but females are just as likely to be narcissists or exhibit narcissistic traits. So please don't think just because article uses the word him or he that it could not be a woman in that same role.

There are multiple patterns that may show themselves before or during a narcissist’s cheating spell against his or her partner.

In this article, we will outline the top 6 narcissistic cheating patterns you are most likely to see in toxic relationships.

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Top 6 Narcissistic Cheating Patterns.

Narcissistic Cheating Patterns

1. The Need for Narcissistic Supply

Narcissists crave admiration and appreciation. This is their preferred drug.

When people look at them, chase them, or desire them in any way, they experience a sense of self-worth.

The issue is that they desire a great deal of appropriate attention.

And a single relationship does not always provide them with what they require, especially if it is well-established and no longer exciting.

Consequently, they seek new admirers elsewhere in order to experience the highs of attention.

2. A Feeling Of Superiority

A narcissist believes that they deserve things more than others.

They frequently have a superiority complex, which makes them feel entitled to everything they desire in life.

This includes having multiple partners or having extramarital affairs.

It is irrelevant whether this is morally right or wrong because they do not have to adhere to the standards of us mere mortals.

Different rules apply to them, and these rules justify emotional and physical infidelity.

3. An Overinflated Ego

As stated previously, narcissists have a high opinion of themselves.

They believe they are exceedingly desirable.

This provides them with a degree of self-assurance around members of their desired sex, which they can turn into charm.

This charm generates favorable attention, which provides the aforementioned narcissistic supply.

Therefore, they do not hesitate to put themselves in situations where they end up flirting with someone other than their partner.

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Occasionally, it is limited to mere flirtation, but by being in these situations, they have more opportunities to cheat.

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4. Poor Self Control

There is evidence to suggest that narcissism and impulsivity are strongly related.

Not always, however, as narcissists can also be extremely calculating.

In situations where they can obtain narcissistic supply and other physical or sexual gratification, narcissists may be unable to resist the urge.

They may repeatedly cheat on their partner for no reason other than a lack of self-control, regardless of the consequences of their actions.

5. A Strong Sexual Energy

Numerous narcissists have a robust libido.

Sex is an additional source of sustenance and an opportunity for them to prove their worth.

Regardless of how much their sexual partner enjoys it, narcissists use sex to soothe themselves.

It is an extremely potent dose of the drug they require to feel good about themselves.

If they are dissatisfied with the sex they are having with their partner, this effect will be diminished.

Therefore, they will seek sex elsewhere to satisfy their needs.

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6. A Never Ending Power Trip

Narcissists enjoy feeling in control of others. They enjoy the ability to persuade others to act as they desire.

The narcissist enjoys sex or other forms of physical or emotional compliance.

Therefore, they view it as a challenge to attract and seduce individuals. The fact that they are already in a relationship is irrelevant to them.

They take pleasure in the pursuit and the satisfaction of successfully luring a potential partner into bed.

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Therefore, they will derive greater satisfaction from controlling multiple partners. Consequently, they may have affairs or live multiple lives with multiple partners.

If they are able to get away with this, it demonstrates that they are truly superior to others. More intelligent, more appealing, and more likable.

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