* I generally write using the pronouns he/him when referring to narcissists, but females are just as likely to be narcissists or exhibit narcissistic traits. So please don't think just because article uses the word him or he that it could not be a woman in that same role.
I feel like something is missing, but I don’t know what it is.
I have everything. The husband, the kids, the house, the car, even the job I don’t hate. So why don’t I feel at peace with my life?
I feel guilty for “having it all,” and still not being fulfilled.
Am I being selfish?
It feels like the fire in my soul has gone out. I don’t feel passionate about my own life, that I worked so hard to create.
The guilt is consuming me, why can’t i just be happy. What is wrong with me?
This was my life. It looked perfect. But if you looked beyond the beautiful Instagram pictures you would see a miserable, depressed, lost woman.
If you are still with me then you can probably relate to a few or all of those feeling I was having.
Your health, you energy, your relationships, your self-esteem, and your finances all suffer when you have lost your life’s purpose or maybe you weren’t following your purpose in the first place.
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- Here are 9 surefire signs that you have missed the mark and aren’t following your purpose in life.
- 1. You never get off the roller coaster.
- 2. You are surrounded by negative people who hold you back.
- 3. Your constantly looking at the green grass on the other side.
- 4. You are stuck with the feeling that “you will be happy when yada yada happens.”
- 5. Your not happy to wake up in the morning and start your day.
- 6. You hate your job.
- 7. You have everything and still feel empty.
- 8. You have ignored your dreams.
- 9. You feel stuck and don’t know what to do next.
Here are 9 surefire signs that you have missed the mark and aren’t following your purpose in life.
1. You never get off the roller coaster.
If you always feel like you are on a pendulum swinging between a phenomenal few days and not wanting get out of bed in the morning then you are probably not aiming for your true purpose.
It can feel like you are on a roller coaster with extreme highs and then the lowest of lows. When you are following your true calling you will feel more stable.
You will still have highs and lows, but the lows will not feel like the world is crashing down on you. Your roller coaster should feel like a gentle ride through the hills.
2. You are surrounded by negative people who hold you back.
“Surround yourself with those who only lift you higher.”– Oprah Winfrey
How do you feel when you around your coworkers? Or your friends and family? Do you constantly hear complaining, bitching, nagging, and criticizing when you around your “people.”
Strive to spend time with people who inspire, empower, and encourage you to be a better person.
3. Your constantly looking at the green grass on the other side.
If you are constantly looking at what other people have and you long to walk in their shoes instead of your own, then you are missing your purpose in life. It is easy to get pulled into the envy mindset with our high use of social media.
With all the beautiful pictures on Instagram it is easy to forget about the great things that we have in our daily lives. We need to remember that what we see on social media is not the whole picture but only a glimpse of the most perfect moments.
Most of those perfect moments have extra set lighting, professional cameras men, and post production editing.
4. You are stuck with the feeling that “you will be happy when yada yada happens.”
If you are so focused on the end goal that you forget what happened during the game then that is a sure sign that you are not living a meaningful life.
Being stuck in the state of thinking that you’ll be “happier when” the next good thing happens and you’re not enjoying the journey of life.
Excuse my morbidness, but picture a gravestone. A name, three or four words, birth date – death date. That is all we get in the end.
Realize that your birth and death dates are just two moments in your life and all the meaningful stuff happens in the dash in the middle.
5. Your not happy to wake up in the morning and start your day.
If you’re not excited or at least enthusiastic about getting out of bed in the morning, then you’re most likely not following your purpose in life.
If you’re waking up a couple of days each week with a monotonous feeling of having to do “this” again today — that’s probably a sign that you’re not on the right path.
When you have meaning a purpose in life you will wake up excited to start your day and see where it takes you.
6. You hate your job.
The master of the art of living makes little distinction between his work and his play, his labor and his leisure, his mind and his body, his education and his recreation, his love and his religion. He hardly knows which is which; he simply pursues his vision of excellence in whatever he does, leaving others to decide whether he is working or playing. To him he is always doing both.– Buddha
Our jobs are our livelihood and necessary to continue to not be homeless which is what we are all going for in life. But if you spend every one of your work hours just waiting for the weekend, it probably means that your job is not moving you towards your purpose and life goals.
Your job should invigorate you and feed your soul, not deplete your energy.
7. You have everything and still feel empty.
Many persons have a wrong idea of what constitutes true happiness. It is not attained through self-gratification but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.– Helen Keller
If you spend all your time working and stressing over “stuff” and even with all the “stuff” you still have an empty feeling in your gut, then you are missing the mark on following your meaning in life.
To others it seems like you have everything but it still feels like there is something missing in your life… If you’re doing a lot of the things that society suggests are “right,” but you still feel that something is wrong then that’s probably a sign that you’re off track with your long term goals.
8. You have ignored your dreams.
If you deliberately plan on being less than you are capable of being, then I warn you that you’ll be unhappy for the rest of your life.– Abraham Maslow
What is it that you day dream about doing? Maybe you have been to scared or ashamed of whatever those dreams are haven’t wanted to tell your family or friends.
If you are keeping your dreams in the dark then thats a sure sign that your missing your purpose in life.
9. You feel stuck and don’t know what to do next.
You got to go down a lot of wrong roads to find the right one.– Bob Parsons
If you feel stuck, unfulfilled, depressed, stressed, and you don’t know how to break out of the cycle then you are missing the mark on life’s purpose. In order to stop feeling lost and stuck you must realize your purpose in life.
It wasn’t too long ago that I was living these nine truths.
I spent my days dreading my work, resenting my children and husband, and hating myself for feeling that way when “I had it all.”
What is the point?
Why do I even care?
Why do I feel guilty all the time?
Is that was life is really all about?
Really, this is it?
Those are the thoughts that constantly ran through my mind like a never ending marque sign, one after the other.
It’s precisely because I have been there. I’ve felt that pain — and was able to escape it and find my purpose.
My goal is to help people who lack purpose and passion in their lives find the passionate career and life they deserve. If any of the above signs sound familiar to you, I’d love to help you begin to nourish your soul and start following your true purpose in life.
I wrote an entire blueprint on how I found my purpose and I can guide you through finding your purpose in life as well.
If You Need A Crisis Hotline Or Want To Learn More About Therapy, Please See Below:
- RAINN (Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network) – 1-800-656-4673
- The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline – 1-800-273-8255
- National Domestic Violence Hotline – 1-800-799-7233
- NAMI Helpline (National Alliance on Mental Illness) – 1-800-950-6264
For More Information On Mental Health, Please See:
- SAMHSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) SAMHSA Facebook, SAMHSA Twitter, SAMHSA LinkedIn, SAMHSA Youtube
- Mental Health America, MHA Twitter, MHA Facebook, MHA Instagram, MHA Pinterest, MHA Youtube
- WebMD, WebMD Facebook, WebMD Twitter, WebMD Instagram, WebMD Pinterest
- NIMH (National Institute of Mental Health), NIMH Instagram, NIMH Facebook, NIMH Twitter, NIMH YouTube
- APA (American Psychiatric Association), APA Twitter, APA Facebook, APA LinkedIN, APA Instagram