* I generally write using the pronouns he/him when referring to narcissists, but females are just as likely to be narcissists or exhibit narcissistic traits. So please don't think just because article uses the word him or he that it could not be a woman in that same role.
1. Never seek happiness from other people.
You will never be happy in life if you do, knowing the fact that you are your own master and you hold your own happiness.
2. Never depend into people for anything.
You will always be let down.
3. Never hold your expectations high for anything.
Just be yourself and live for the moment being constantly who you are, because when we expect the most we always get let down.
4. Never escape problems always try to face them and solve them.
Because if you do the problems get bigger and they will drain you out of your energy.
5. Never allow people to dictate how you feel about yourself or to dictate your happiness in general.
6. Never get affected by peoples thoughts, what they think of you, how they view you and what they are saying, what you think of yourself that’s what matters and how you view yourself.
7. Always push yourself out of your comfort zone or at least try on daily basis to achieve success in life.
8. Always fight for what you believe in and chase your dreams’’If your dreams don’t scare you they aren’t big enough’’.
9. Always fight for what you believe in even if it means to stand against the people.
Remember you were born to stand out not to fit in, every individual is unique on it’s own, so do not afraid to stand out from the people.
10. Learn to enjoy your own company only then you are going to be happy.
Meaning life your life to the fullest and be proud with what you possess and who you are, this will make you attract the whole people around.
11. Learn to love yourself, respect yourself.
Appreciate yourself, value yourself and take a good care of yourself, so you can reflect back with those things to the people.
12. Never trust too early, never allow anyone to surpass your boundaries if they do learn to walk away.
13. Never waste your time and energy to negative-toxic people there will always be someone on the line that is going to judge you so live for yourself and distance yourself from those individuals they will leave you drained out of energy and time, surround yourself with the positive, with the people that share your mindset, your world, your emotions and ideas.
14. You don’t need to prove, you need to be. Never try proving yourself to anyone knowing the fact that you do not owe anything to anyone especially to the people that hold no value in you, the moment you feel that you need to prove your worth to someone is the moment that you should utterly walk away without wasting time and energy.
15. Do not go on wasting your time and energy in life, you will need them later on, knowing the fact that every movement requires time and energy.
16. Know that on your journey to a dream or your path you are going to lose lots of people.
Be ready for it, time will reveal peoples faces and you are going to be surprised with how much you have lost in the process especially if you are successful, do not allow that to take you out of your path or your dream, because if you are losing people that shows that you stood up for what you believed and you are still following that path and chasing that dream, the people that will fade know that they were never in there to begin with, only the true people that really loved you will stand on your side on your darkest and sweetest days those are the people that really care about you, the rest who fade are just history, even the people that you thought they were in there or you trusted them so much, that’s why time reveals everything.
17. Do not go around Empathizing with every individual.
Be smart with your Empathy, share your Empathy with the right people, they will use that against you and hurt you badly, that’s the hard truth that i learned late in life.
18. Be positive only then you are going to live a happy life.
Always wake up even if you are feeling bad, show up and start your day with a smile on your face, no matter what happens, you are responsible for your happiness do not allow people to dictate your moods.
19. Grow everyday from life experiences as a human being.
view every negative experience as a growing lesson, those experiences happen for a reason to grow your mind and to teach you a lesson, do not afraid them, be grateful that they happened because you are losing nothing on the process while you are earning everything, most importantly you are growing unlimited on daily basis and learning self control.
20. When people provoke you it’s a positive thing.
Do not react, this is a test that life has thrown to you with this test you are basically going to know how mentally strong you are and how much in control you are with yourself, when those experiences happen over and over again you get stronger and more in control of yourself, the people that provoke you are wasting their time while you are earning lots on the process.
21. Never allow your past to dictate your present or future.
Live for the moment and make the best out of it.
22. Never view people as all the same simply Black and White.
Everyone is different and everyone should be treated differently according to their character, if someone has hurt you in the past that does not mean that you should hurt another human being believing that everyone else will be bad.
23. Never judge another individual.
Never try to bring another individual down rather cheer them up.
24. Never take life too seriously, you will be left drained, joke around and play around.
25. Never go around trying to fix people especially if you are on an active relationship so they can love you, this is pure Co-Dependency and you are going to end up hurt.
26. Know the fact that love will find you whenever you are already happy.
Because you are going to reflect to the people more attractive if you are simply being yourself, having a blast and being all confident on your own skin with your own company and caring less.
27. Never beg, plead or cling for the people to stay with you especially in relationships.
The door is open if it is meant to happen it will happen, if not the door is open they can leave, the right people in the right moment will enter your life and never leave, while the wrong people will leave.
28. Never go around searching for Love desperately this will make you less attractive, because you are desperate and you are going to appear desperate.
29. Life will force you to walk away from the people that you thought they were the right people for you, it will take you serious guts to walk away, it’s easier to stay then to walk especially from those types of individuals that you really love and care or you thought they were different while they were not, know the fact that you can’t really go against your destiny neither change it, so eventually you will have to learn the hard truth of walking away sometimes which will be the hardest thing for you.
30. Know one thing in life’’God will give you the people that you need and deserve, not the ones that you want’’.
31. Work smart in life rather then hard.
Everything in life requires being smarter, so use your mind rather then wasting your body.
32. Always forgive the people that have hurt you however never forget what they did to you.
Why do you need to forgive them?So you can simply shift your valued time and energy from those people to someone new who deserves it so you won’t have anything to do with them anymore. Forgiving shows maturity and growth however you are going to never forget, you need to show those people that there should be a difference between you and them. Just take it this way if you get a clean paper and you write something in it then you erase the things with a rubber, will the page ever be as clean as it was?Nope because there will always be some rubber left in the paper.
33. Know that the only Unconditional Love and Care that you are going to ever receive is from your parents, no body else will give you those things, so stop searching for those things from other people.
34. Do not overthink before doing anything.
Because they chances are you will never get the thing done, just think less act more, go out there show up and stop overthinking, because you are going to got trapped on those thoughts forever.
35. Learn to fight your own battles in life, do not expect people to fight them for you, everyone has a battle going on you will be severely dissappointed.
36. Learn to pick yourself up when life brings you down to your knees.
do not expect people to pick you up because no one will do that for you. Why do we fall? To learn to pick ourselves up.
37. Whenever you do something good you should do it without expecting anything in return because if you do expect something in return you will be disappointed.
38. Learn to push yourself out of your comfort zone on daily basis, why?To challenge your mind so your mind grows everyday when your mind grows your body follows, only then you will make the impossible seem easy, when you learn to capture and control your own mind because you are your own master.
39. Why do most things seem impossible in life?
Because we are making them seem impossible, by remaining constantly on that comfort zone of ours that it feels comfortable, by allowing our mind obstacles to dictate our actions and fears, by being trapped on that fear and living always on the fear, who creates that fear?Our mind does, because we exactly know where our comfort zone ends, if you don’t push yourself out of that comfort zone you will never reach your dreams.
40. It’s fairly important to do the things that you are the most scared about doing on life or the things that feel impossible.
Only then you are going to beat your fears and achieve greatness. What does not kill you it makes you stronger, as soon as you are breathing you are good to go, whatever leaves you scared stiff keep on doing that stuff until it becomes nothing more then a routine, always strive for more, do not get satisfied with what you possess, trust me you grow everyday and your dreams grow even bigger on daily basis, the sky should be your limit when you chase your dreams.
41. People always ask me who inspires you on daily basis?I answer them with a simple answer, my inner self.
I inspire myself everyday by pushing myself out of my comfort zone, achieving the things that i thought that they were impossible a few days ago, weeks ago or months ago or even years ago.
So when I look at myself in the mirror I remember where i was standing and where i am standing now it gives fuel to my fire to reach even higher then where i am right now.
Your best motivation in life should be your own self, your bruises, pain, success they should be your medals of honor and your inner motivation to keep on striving for more.
Imagine when you eat your favorite food, you will always want more of that food and feel hungrier, that’s how success in life should feel to you, when you reach something strive for something higher.
Let that success of yours make you hungry for more so you can constantly grow and keep on chasing your dreams.
42. I’m thankful to all those who said no, because of them I did it myself-Albert Einstein.
When people refuse to help you take it the positive way, you were created to fight your own battles in life, they are basically doing you a favor, they are making you do the things that seem impossible for you, they are making you do the opposite of what your mind thinks, they are making you the things that seemed impossible without them to do basically possible.
I got refused millions of times however i did all of the things myself, now I don’t depend anymore to people.
I finish everything alone knowing the fact that they do not owe me anything, I fight my own battles, they are the ones that created me and gave me control over myself.
43. Don’t go in search of a person that will complete you.
Always know the fact that if you are not complete already no body can complete you, we tend to enter Relationships to share our completeness with the significant other not to seek completeness.
If you are trying to find someone to complete you or you are trying to help that person to complete himself/herself then the relationship is broken from the start, you can’t complete another human being that’s a known fact. If you tend to enter a relationship to fix another human being so they can love you that’s pure Co Dependency and you have deep issues.
The purpose of relationship is to share your completeness with another complete human being, meaning you have to be 100% complete and yourself to the fullest, accepting yourself the way you are, feeling proud on your own skin and being constantly happy.
When you get the clue of those feelings then you are going to attract the whole crowd with those feelings, meaning with or without that person that you are sharing your feelings you will always be happy no matter what.
44. There are people who came to me and asked for help especially those who go through a breakup from a bitter Relationship, they go around like’’Man I can’t breathe, i can’t live without her, i just can’t’’
I’m like Lad i wonder how did you make it to this date without her?Without knowing her to begin with?
If i can starve myself 3–5 days without Food on daily basis, i can live without a fake human being lol.
There are 2 things that a human can’t live without that’s:Food and Water, period. Even without Food and Water you can live for a certain period of time, even then you get adapted, so do not come to me with sentences like i can’t live without a fake human being, because you can, you made it to this date without her, if you are breathing you are basically living.
There is one thing that i can’t live without and that’s my Oatmeal, without it i can’t function properly anything else is just history with or without another human being i don’t really care. Never steal an Americans Oatmeal hahahaha.
45. There are also people who go around like ’’I can’t love another human being, not after him/her i just can’t do it.
Lol what are you talking about lad?If you loved the wrong person this much, imagine how much you will Love the right one. You lost nothing more then a Facade from life, the people that are not meant to be are supposed to fade like bitter memories, only the true genuine people will enter your life and stay on the right circumstances.
46. ‘’What you think, that you become’’.
Your thoughts are the reflection of yourself, if you think that you are not good, not attractive, you don’t deserve the best, you don’t deserve value, respect, appreciation, love, those things you will become, you get what you want.
Think positive of yourself so you can reflect back to the people with those thoughts.
47. Do not blame your looks, genetics or how you were created.
You were created the most beautiful way, the key on opening doors to every opportunity is your Confidence, your self acceptance, if you accept yourself the way you are, feel proud on your own skin, feel proud from where you came remembering all those difficult times then every door in life will be opened for you.
It’s not about the looks or your body, it’s about your mind and your thinking, if you accept yourself the way you are feeling proud everyone else will accept you with their positive attitude, if you can’t seem to accept yourself no body will do that for you.
48. Confidence is the most attractive thing a human being can wear.
It all comes down to confidence and how you use it.
49. Never get Discouraged when someone tells you it can’t be done.
When someone tells you it can’t be done it’s a reflection of their limitations not yours.
50. If you Fail never give up.
Because F.A.I.L means ‘’First Attempt In Learning’’. End is not the end. In fact, E.N.D. means ‘’Effort Never Dies’’. If you get NO as an answer, remember N.O means’’Next Opportunity’’.
51. Always remember’’The world is changed by your Example, not opinion’’.
52. You cannot hang out with negative people and expect to have a Positive life.
53. The things that you need to give up for success:
Short Term Mindset, Playing Small- Dream Big, Excuses-Take Responsibility, Need For Approval-Be Yourself, Toxic People-Surround yourself with people that inspire, encourage and push you.
54. Do Less:
Talking, planning, soda, junk food, complaining, worrying, doubting, lazing around, frowning, insecurity, weakness ignorance, hate, ungratefulness and More:Listening, doing, tea, salads, encouraging, hoping, believing, working out ,smiling, trust, confidence, understanding, love and gratitude.
55. Know that mentally strong people:Enjoy their time alone, they hold themselves accountable for their actions.
They celebrate the success of others.They surround themselves with greatness. They have great health habits. From sleep to how they eat, they own their mind, body and spirit. They embrace and celebrate change. They know that change is constant with life. They invest time and energy into the present.The’re able to focus on the tasks at hand.
56. No matter how much it hurt now, someday you will look back and realize your struggles changed your life for better.
57. Move on don’t waste time, feeling sorry for yourself.
Mentally strong people embrace change and welcome challenges. They stay happy, they don’t waste energy on the things that they can’t change neither control. They are kind fair and unafraid to speak up. They are willing to take calculated risk. They celebrate other people’s success. They don’t resent that success.
58. Always Remember to:Be kind, eat well, sleep well, exercise, meditate
Be honest, dream big, be patient, judge less, smile often, love yourself, think positively, drink lots of water, believe in yourself, keep an open mind, put your needs first, don’t make excuses,
speak well of others, listen to understand, chose faith over fear, make the most of now, exercise self discipline, avoid social comparison, see failure as opportunity, don’t take opinions to heart,
select friends that lift you up, let go of what can’t be changed, have a healthy sleeping pattern.
59. Know that on your road to success:You will feel pain.
You will cry before you get it. You will lose your friends. Lots of people will discourage you. People will hate you for no reason. You will almost talk yourself hundreds of times out of it. You will doubt yourself thousands of times. You will think you’re going crazy.You will develop weird habits. You will lose money=However in the end it will all be worth it.