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What is the saddest truth about being the victim of narcissistic abuse?

    * I generally write using the pronouns he/him when referring to narcissists, but females are just as likely to be narcissists or exhibit narcissistic traits. So please don't think just because article uses the word him or he that it could not be a woman in that same role.

    What is the saddest truth about being the victim of narcissistic abuse?

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    • Realizing that everything , every words just a lie , its not love its heavy MANIPULATION ( how much i taking bullet for him ) , i’m losing my self , how much i have believe and faith in this relationships
    • Accepting that every dream , future , foundation , love , hope , that you build for that relationships is GONE, in the snap of your fingers.
    • You realize your being USED
    • You are feeling STUPID, because you truly did believe in the relationship, you put every effort that you could, you believe in him, your willing to struggle with his pathetic miserable life, you put so much effort into building him up and to give what he “ said “ he want or need
    • You are ashamed to yourself , humiliated , defeated , regarded , disrespect , betrayed, you name it.
    • Collateral damage that you need to take a responsibility for, when you changed jobs, made major decisions, and moved across town for him. It was all for him and now you are left to clean up the mess (since he is gone in a puff and discard you)
    • The battle of URGE feeling to still hope its just NIGHTMARES ( trauma bond ) and addiction of his sweet lie , the question “ WHY “ , “ HOW COME “ , “ HOW COULD HE DO THAT “that lingering in my head ..
    • The saddest part is that you are still alive even though you feel someone has ripped chunks of your heart out before your eyes without the slightest hint of remorse.

    At the end , you don’t even know how to respond to all this, its to much to hurt and sad and madness.

    Everyday is different struggle, a different demon.

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    Yet you are alive, you will continue to survive, you will thrive.

    If You Need A Crisis Hotline Or Want To Learn More About Therapy, Please See Below:

    • RAINN (Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network) – 1-800-656-4673
    • The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline – 1-800-273-8255
    • National Domestic Violence Hotline – 1-800-799-7233
    • NAMI Helpline (National Alliance on Mental Illness) – 1-800-950-6264

    For More Information On Mental Health, Please See:

    • SAMHSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) SAMHSA Facebook, SAMHSA Twitter, SAMHSA LinkedIn, SAMHSA Youtube
    • Mental Health America, MHA Twitter, MHA Facebook, MHA Instagram, MHA Pinterest, MHA Youtube
    • WebMD, WebMD Facebook, WebMD Twitter, WebMD Instagram, WebMD Pinterest
    • NIMH (National Institute of Mental Health), NIMH Instagram, NIMH Facebook, NIMH Twitter, NIMH YouTube
    • APA (American Psychiatric Association), APA Twitter, APA Facebook, APA LinkedIN, APA Instagram

    4 thoughts on “What is the saddest truth about being the victim of narcissistic abuse?”

    1. Absolut true! I’ve been in a relationship with a narcissist for 6 and a half years. I have it all: passion and love for the beggining, and then lies, cheating, manipulation, always it usr to be my faulth for everything he dosn’like or please him. It was always about/ for himself and finnaly seems to be bored and I have that feelling that he hate me. We broke up many times. He always use to manipulate my feellings to get me back but now… I know for sure this time what is he up to, who really is he. I have difficult time now, but I know that after a storm it will be a rainbow.
      Stay safe everyone and be aware who is in your heart, in your soul, in your bed!

    2. 30+ years! I’m not the same person. In fact, I don’t even know who the real me is!
      I’ve nearly been driven absolutely mad crazy!
      Until I finally learned what was truly happening. Only a few years ago I was introduced to narcissism and it’s heinous tactics and consequently it’s horrendous effects on a person, both physically and psychologically.

      I am trapped in my own personal hell….both in reality, and in my mind.

    3. Has anybody gotten so pissed after finding out that they have been played all these years ever try to get revenge? I’m just learning that for 20 years, married him 2 times, It just hit me like a ton of bricks how much he has lie, cheated stolen, and murdered my love once and for all. And he doesn’t give one iota if I go through so much suffering, stress, starvation, mental health hospitals. I don’t know how I haven’t seen it in the past. I’m am so angry and pissed off at myself. I am going to file for divorce now to hopefully get my part of our assets before he takes it and runs with it. He has before. But I want to hit him where it hurts before. Take him by surprise just like he did and be able to look him right in the face and say “Some people are like clouds, when they disappear…it’s a beautiful thing.” and ” By the way…the definition of Karma is…..Haha fuck you. You knew you were playing the game, but you didn’t know I was the coach!’ How’s it feel MF?

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