* I generally write using the pronouns he/him when referring to narcissists, but females are just as likely to be narcissists or exhibit narcissistic traits. So please don't think just because article uses the word him or he that it could not be a woman in that same role.
I have made a collection of crazy stuff narcissists say directly from people who have been in relationships with narcissists or have a narcissistic parent. This is real life with a narcissist!
Crazy Stuff Narcissists Say – direct words from survivors.
Can’t you take a joke?
Your so ungrateful.
Of course I did, but maybe I can make you forget…?
I never said.
You must have understood me.
Yes, I know I just made you feel two inches tall, but why would you think you can call me out on that?
I was just trying to help.
Can’t we just move past that?
There you go, blaming me again.
I was manipulating you, but that’s not the point.
She is helping you see the truth about me, better remove her from your life.
Why don’t you take a look at yourself.
What are you even talking about?
You always take things so personally
I NEVER SAID THAT. WOW, the things you all accuse me of! It’s evil. I can’t believe this is happening to me.
You always twist my words around
I want your therapist’s number; I know you’re going just to talk bad about me and I want her to have MY perspective.
Are you crazy? I never said/did that.
You don’t have the RIGHT to be upset,
You think your depressed? You aren’t! I’m the one who should be depressed! I’ve had it worse than you!
I don’t remember doing that.
If you’re successful in life the credit is mine. If you’re a failure, you did that shit on your own
God how can you make this all about you?
I never said that. YOU said that/do this all the time.
Other people have it worse. All families are messed up in their own way.
You need a therapist. And I’m gonna make sure it’s not one of those who have any ‘confidentiality’. He better tell me what you’re saying.
Then the therapist told me that I was the one with the problem! Can you imagine?
Don’t you dare talk about me in therapy!! You don’t talk about me to ANYONE!
Shut the f*ck up! It’s only a broken leg. You really need to get your attitude under control. Everything doesn’t revolve around you!
You don’t have a right to privacy, I’m your mother/spouse/partner.
Child abuse?! What about mommy abuse?!! I should’ve had the police take you away years ago!
I’m sorry that you’re upset with me.
It was just a joke.
Go apologize to your mum because hitting you made her sad.
I hope you get a kid just like you so you know how this feels!
Just don’t let that therapist turn you against me!
When I WANT your opinion, I’ll GIVE it to you!
Don’t even think about cheating on me with your therapist.
I went through your phone messages and desktop messenger chat history because YOU WON’T TELL ME ANYTHING!
I’ll give you a reason to cry.
You can’t take criticism. You’re too sensitive.
Nobody ever bothers to visit me after they die.
If You Need A Crisis Hotline Or Want To Learn More About Therapy, Please See Below:
- RAINN (Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network) – 1-800-656-4673
- The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline – 1-800-273-8255
- National Domestic Violence Hotline – 1-800-799-7233
- NAMI Helpline (National Alliance on Mental Illness) – 1-800-950-6264
For More Information On Mental Health, Please See:
- SAMHSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) SAMHSA Facebook, SAMHSA Twitter, SAMHSA LinkedIn, SAMHSA Youtube
- Mental Health America, MHA Twitter, MHA Facebook, MHA Instagram, MHA Pinterest, MHA Youtube
- WebMD, WebMD Facebook, WebMD Twitter, WebMD Instagram, WebMD Pinterest
- NIMH (National Institute of Mental Health), NIMH Instagram, NIMH Facebook, NIMH Twitter, NIMH YouTube
- APA (American Psychiatric Association), APA Twitter, APA Facebook, APA LinkedIN, APA Instagram
I didn’t hit you. You hit yourself all you have to do us shut up. ( but I’m not I’m going to push you till you break)
Why are you going outside, bathroom, anywhere. I’m right here sit down. ( I’ll go where and when I want)
Who’s calling you. ( haven’t even answered the phone yet
I really believe that my boyfriend is a narcissistic. everything is about him and he tells me I can have a relationship with a guy or a woman. It’s all about him and now he’s bored I thought our sex life was fine I was lie I’m not good enough about sex he wants more excitement. Doing stupid stuff.
You should use half your taxes to pay that to help my health but you won’t ,,,,what the heck?? Does that mean or after he cheated n kept flirting n asking girls out calling n texting I. Got angry said things n broke up n three months later still broke up n he refused it is over but said I did worse to him Iam disrespectful
“You see I knew it, you got a guilty conscience ever since you found out I cheated on you you’ve been wanting to leave me and you act different n it’s your guilty conscience!”
What???
Yes we all have problems.
Ya I’m really depressed too its been getting worse for years
You’re lucky you have a patient husband
I always thought you would be the one to attempt suicide not your lil sister
I dont know how you got that. No one else in the family has Lupus
The Zinger: You and your husband have arguments in front of the kids so its nothing that their grandparents are causing a physical altercation in front of them
My favorite, especially after my struggle to feel being empathetic is a gift not curse.
AND after making that his struggle; telling everyone how diffult it is being an empath and highly sensitive person,
my all time favorite is
“Stop feeling like that.”
“Don’t feel like that”
“You arent supposed to feel that way”
I wish. Lol
I’ve been dealt such a shitty hand in life. Nothing ever goes right for me! Nobody gives a f_ck about me! This is usually when i would start getting yelled at and called stupid, for something as trivial as not being able to find her hair brush. Childish temper tantrums would be the worst. I always ended up apologizing for her not being able to find the hair brush she forgot where she put it. She’d yell and say things like, NO ONE ELSE WAS HERE JUST YOU, so where’s my hair brush? I never had a clue where she would set stuff down but it was guaranteed that i had to stop what i was doing immediately to help her during her temper tantrums.
Mine too then I found out she was sleeping with her business partner I the spa I bought for her for the last 10 years telling me that is was noting more than an after bar f@&$ and fantasy sex no love etc. Impossible to be no love with a dude you spent 40 hours a week with daily in a private facility then lied to me about everything which the intention was to take to the grave. I am crazy though right for having zero trust in what she says now. Sure lady.
I think my boyfriend have a lot narcissit is hard special when you have feeling for that person he have good things too but in top of thats he is aries is worst and confused. I dont know what to do im strong women but sometimes i feel weak.
I come from a family with some narcissistic people in it,, more so then not, I really love when I go visit my mother,and she tryed stirring up trouble, she loves to try and tell me my husband is gay, this last visit, she was saying our son is gay, I knew if I told her wouldnt care if he was, that would be the only thing to shut her up,, and, I was right, b.t.w, I have absolutely nothing against gay people, but, she does and also bashes black people, these people are evil,,, 4 me, I will stay away as much as humanly possible!
Remember this ..no person is worth you and no person is with your family…ask Prince Harry
One of my favorites…..after our marriage counselor said “lying” is one of the top five absolute “no’s” in a marriage and my husband is a self-proclaimed chronic liar, he said to me (after catching him another lie), “What? Do you really expect me to never lie to you again?” And, all I was asking for was an apology or recognition that he did it and hurt me.
You think rushing to the Dr is more important than getting me cigarettes first?! You need to get your priorities straight! Yes…he actually said this!
My mom once called me on my birthday at like 10pm and said “I can’t believe you didn’t call me to say Thanks for having you, I almost aborted you instead of having you, you should be grateful.” She never did say happy birthday in that conversation
No, remember they think they are perfect.
My favorite after days of yelling and insults. “ I’m trying to save you from yourself”.
After noticing something fishy at him company party between him and his coworker I have been blamed for having affairs over and over. Almost died and went into ICU for blood clots in my lungs my husband yelled at me because he had to take care of himself and 2 kids because he was recovering from hernia surgery. And I should have waited till he was better. Tells me I’m lazy even though I have Lupus, Fibromyalgia, Migraines, work 55 hrs a week, and took care of my 3 children, 2 girl scout troops, a cub scout troop, and a cub scout den.
No, they don’t. I did some group work in the past, with people who had various issues around addiction, one of the people in the group was identified as a narcissist by the group counsellor and the main characteristic of a narcissist is that they will never admit or accept a negative opinion about them, or that there is anything wrong with them. Everyone is expected to agree with everything that they say, they can never be wrong and if you dare to say that they are, or disagree with them, they will be livid, shocked to the core that you would have the audacity to question anything they say or do.
My husband is not only a narcissist but an alcoholic as well. I’ve heard tons of excuses over the years and these are the 2 craziest responses I’ve heard:
I caught him cheating (he had 2 phones and was on the road with 1 and left 1 behind). I called to confront him.
Me: Who is Tammy and do you send nude pics of yourself to more women?
His response: You went through my phone?
He never came home that night
Me: (calling and calling because hes a missing person in my book. The next morning after he comes home) Where have you been? I’ve been calling all night.
His response: (must’ve watched this on NCIS) Someone got hurt at the job site (it’s now Sunday morning) and detectives came and wouldn’t let me leave. (Never brought up the story again)
He knows I studied law, you’re really going to come with that story? So they held you captive and stole your phone?
No matter what, they will always find an excuse to get their way and will always blame you for calling them out on it.
My husband is not only a narcissist but an alcoholic as well. I’ve heard tons of excuses over the years and these are the 2 craziest responses I’ve heard:
I caught him cheating (he had 2 phones and was on the road with 1 and left 1 behind). I called to confront him.
Me: Who is Tammy and do you send nude pics of yourself to more women?
His response: You went through my phone?
He never came home that night
Me: (calling and calling because hes a missing person in my book. The next morning after he comes home) Where have you been? I’ve been calling all night.
His response: (must’ve watched this on NCIS) Someone got hurt at the job site (it’s now Sunday morning) and detectives came and wouldn’t let me leave. (Never brought up the story again)
He knows I studied law, you’re really going to come with that story? So they held you captive and stole your phone?
No matter what, they will always find an excuse to get their way and will always blame you for calling them out on it.
Let’s add one more: “You have to choose between God and me”. My words were; “I choose God, He makes me happy, you DON’T”! He didn’t like my answer. Too bad, he’s out of my life for good.
Most common.. “I can not catch a break” Second.. “Nobody cares about me, might as well take a walk out back and just end it, no one will care”.. Heard those 2 all the damn time!
I know my wife is telling me that the dude she was seeing behind my back was a narcissist and I knew him too and 100% agreed and even exampled it all in facts for her 6 years ago when I confronted her about it and she made me look crazy. I have been reading lots since it happened and am convinced she is a narcissist too so I see their connection now. Let’s see in therapy what happens now.
Y’all are going to love this… I had enough of his shady behavior and shenanigans with other women and I told him I didn’t love him anymore. With all the seriousness he could muster he said, “Well you need to!” I told him didn’t think I could and he said, “You need to put on your thinking cap and figure it out or I’m not going to work today and when I get fired it’s gonna be all your fault!” Us that priceless or what?
I don’t care if you thought you’d seen me with another woman. Your crazy it’s all in your head. I got you locked up for your own good. If you’d just believe everything I say then you’d have been fine. That voice recoding was a ghost not a woman giving me a bj. You need your head and ears checked. Now your dad and kids know your crazy. Don’t ask me questions you have no right. Don’t you dare blame me for anything and I’m going to your doc appointments you wil not have anyone say anything bad about me. This is my life daily!!
My father was a narc. I’m terrified I an as well.
I heard things my entire childhood that a kid should never hear.
You are a whose just like y mother
In going to kill myself
If you dont choose me over your mother, in killing myself and you won’t ever see of again
I hate you
Why cant you just get out of my f****** life
You’re not ever gonna be shit, just like her.
Addiction always played a role. Cocaine, meth, liquor, beer, pills, pot. He beat my mother almost daily for 14years b4 she left. He ruined every holiday, my sweet 16, if even tool the car that I said for from of on prom night. He stopped hitting me when I realized my words were weapons tho. He doesn’t mess with me much now since mom died. He cries and apologize s often. I’m not mad at him.
My girlfriend and I had an argument once. The argument wasn’t my fault. She came up to me in the middle of the street, stamped her foot on the ground, and shouted “I EXPECT you to worship me!!!”.
He hit me and knocked me out of a chair one night because he thought I was flirting with his neice’s husband…. Right in front of both of them and no one did anything to help me because they were all afraid of his rages. He cheated on me repeatedly with a woman at work and his ex girlfriends but would accuse me of being the cheater. He bought cameras for inside and outside the house so he could spy on me and threatened to put a dash cam in my car so he could see what I did when I wasn’t with him. I had to go to bed and wake up at the same time with him or he would accuse me of being in my phone with guys even tho the phone was right next to his so he could see my messages. He called me chubby and fat ass all the time. Leaving him was the best thing I ever did for myself.