December 2020

What is the Narcissistic Cycle of Abuse?

The Narcissistic Cycle of Abuse is very similar to the standard Cycle of Abuse in most domestic violence situations, with a tension-building phase, an abusive incident, a honeymoon phase, and intermittent periods of calm. There are, however, some distinctions:   The Narcissistic cycle of abuse generally involves four stages: Your narcissist partner feels threatened He or she

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What is Narcissistic Abuse & How to spot it

Some victims’ experiences are invalidated because their abuser was not diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD); however, anyone can be a narcissistic abuser, with or without a diagnosis. Narcissistic abuse may include emotional, physical, verbal, psychological, and sexual abuse, committed by someone who displays narcissistic personality traits. What is Narcissistic abuse? Narcissistic abuse is a

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5 Tools Of The Narcissist

The narcissist uses five main tools. These are gifts, affection, withdrawal, threats and violence and in exactly this order. Gifts: Gifts can be used in two ways. They can either be a symbol of submission or a symbol of demand. Free people generally do not give gifts because they have what they want and do

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12 Gaslighting Techniques Used To Manipulate You And How to spot them

There are numerous gaslighting techniques which can make gaslighting more difficult to identify. Gaslighting techniques are used to hide truths that the abuser doesn’t want the victim to realize. Gaslighting abuse can be perpetrated by either women or men. 12 Gaslighting Techniques Used To Manipulate You And How to spot them 1. Blame shifting They

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Why Is Motivation Important?

Without motivation in life, it’s hard to strive for success and achieve true happiness.  As psychologist Tal Ben-Shahar, PhD, explains in his book Happier, happiness is the ‘highest on the hierarchy of goals, the end toward which all other ends lead…’. Without motivation, you can’t achieve anything. There are no goal posts to aim for and no

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15 Signs That Your Boundaries Need Work

Boundaries, to my mind, are one of the cornerstone psychological habits that we all have to learn.  Good boundaries protect us, protect others, and good boundaries help us experience safety, well-being, happiness, and fulfillment in life. And, good boundaries are especially critical to focus on learning and improving if you come from a relational trauma background. But how do you

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Am I Codependent? How can I tell?

In the course of our personal growth journeys, as we begin to learn more about ourselves, our patterns, and the way our lives were impacted by our early childhood experiences, we may, at some point, confront the question: “Am I codependent?” If you’ve ever asked this question, if you’re curious or concerned that this may

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What is Abuse?

Violence in the family often follows other forms of more subtle and long-term abuse: verbal, emotional, psychological sexual, or financial. It is closely correlated with alcoholism, drug consumption, intimate-partner homicide, teen pregnancy, infant and child mortality, spontaneous abortion, reckless behaviours, suicide, and the onset of mental health disorders. Most abusers and batterers are males –

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